Newborns are so snuggle-y and adorable, so it’s no wonder why people want to stop by for a visit when you bring you new bundle of joy home. But life with a newborn can also be a tiring and overwhelming time for a mom. Some new moms want all the visitors they can get, while others prefer to have more alone time with just baby (and dad and their other children too). No matter what category a new mom falls into, I think these tips apply to visiting any and all new moms 🙂
- Call first: Before showing up, call or text to make sure it’s a good time for you to come over. Between nursing, napping, and adjusting to their new life/schedule, new parernts have a lot going on, and they might only have a small period of time during the day that they want visitors or they might not want visitors at all.
- Be on time: Arrive when you say you’re going to arrive, not 30 minutes late.
- Don’t overstay your welcome: Keep your visit short and sweet. 30 minutes is probably long enough, unless of course she asks you to stay longer. You can always visit another day.
- Keep your advice to yourself: Don’t give advice if it’s not asked for. Postpartum is a very emotional and sensitive time for a mom. You have no clue what she might be going through, whether it’s postpartum depression or what medical concerns/issues she might be having with her baby. Unless advice is asked for, keep it to yourself.
- Bring a meal: As a mom to a newborn, it’s hard to find time to eat, let alone cook a meal. Offer to bring food from a restaurant or bring a meal they can easily stick in the oven later. A meal will be appreciated more than you know.
- Offer to help: Wash dishes, clean the house, or offer to hold the baby so mom can shower or nap.
- Keep germs to yourself: Wash your hands as soon as you get in the house and right before you hold the baby. And if you’re even the slightest bit sick, it’s best to stay home and visit another day.
- Ask how she’s feeling: It’s easy to focus on the baby and forget about mom, but she just went through a huge life change (and possibly a major surgery if she had to have a c-section), and she might be feeling a bit lost in her new role as mom. Ask her how she’s doing/feeling. But don’t pry too much. Just let her know you’re thinking of her too.
- Ask before posting to social media: Some moms don’t want pictures of their babies on social media and some moms want to be the first share the news, so double check with mom before posting anything. I had someone post the name of our baby (which we had been keeping to ourselves the entire pregnancy so that we could reveal it when she was born) before I even had the chance to post that I had the baby.
- Tell her she’s doing great: She’s been through a lot! Give her a compliment. Tell her she looks beautiful and that she is an amazing mom.
Share some of your tips/thoughts below 🙂